Wednesday, 11 May 2016

5 Antidotes To Rider Self Shaming

This article came across my facebook feed this morning and I'd highly recommend a read if you're like me and struggle with unhealthy self criticism. Or even if you think you don't.  There is a ton of great advice packed into a relatively short read.

From the article:

"Not unlike the culprits who planted the seed, we mistake self-shaming for motivation when it’s actually the opposite. Self-shaming is demotivating and demoralizing and no positive change will result."

14 comments:

  1. I self-criticise but don't feel self-shamed or demoralised. Shall read the article anyway, especially after my analysis of the couple of videos I shared last week got "don't be so hard on yourself" comments...perhaps some perspective is timely.
    Thanks ☺☺☺

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    1. You are always far too hard on yourself, you're a lovely rider with gorgeous horses :)

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  2. Great article! Thank you for sharing.

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  3. I do this a lot, thanks for sharing will definitely take a look at the article!

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    1. I think equestrians are really good at beating themselves up unnecessarily.

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  4. i've always tried to live by the "shame is not a motivator" mantra ... but. it's hard. this is a timely reminder for me. thanks!

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    1. I was actually surprised, some of the things I tell myself thinking I'm making myself a better person, are actually unhealthy shame-y things.

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  5. Great article! Always a good reminder :)

    I know I've mentioned this to other bloggers, but a book I've read over and over is called "Build Complete Confidence With Horses". It talks a lot about re-labeling feelings and identifying strengths. Really wonderful book, lots of pretty pictures (a big plus in my mind), and some great tips.

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    1. Thank you for the recommendation - will definitely add it to my list next time I order books

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  6. Thanks so much for sharing! I needed to read that.

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    1. It found me at the right time too, glad you liked it :)

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  7. This is excellent, it was a great reminder :)

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  8. This is a great article. Thank you for sharing! I know that I can sometimes be far too critical of myself. Next time I start down that rode I will remind myself to think back to this article.

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